When Nothing Seems to Work: The Power of Pausing and Reclaiming Yourself

There are moments in life when nothing appears to work anymore. Moments when we have been overgiving, overdoing, people-pleasing, and slowly disconnecting from ourselves.

Over time, we may forget what our needs even are—not basic needs like food or clothing, but deeper ones:
Was there someone who truly listened to you?
Did you have space to breathe, rest, or step away from constant responsibility?
Were you ever relieved from the endless cycle of chores, obligations, and expectations?

Many of us live within patterns that no longer serve anyone—including ourselves. At first glance, it may seem as though someone else is benefiting from these patterns, but in truth, no one is. People-pleasing disempowers the receiver. Neglecting yourself disempowers you. Overworking depletes your energy. Overdoing takes away others’ opportunity to grow, contribute, and take responsibility.

And yet, these patterns often remain unseen. What frequently accompanies them is a constant undercurrent of complaint, frustration, and resentment—energy that signals something is deeply misaligned.

So what is the solution?

It begins with a pause.

Pause and ask yourself:
What is the disempowering pattern here?
If I ask for more, would that actually benefit others?
If I ask for help, could that empower someone else?
If I give less, would others step into their own strength?
If I ask for attention, would someone finally listen?

Changing long-held patterns is not easy—especially when we have lived with them for decades. Often, we blame ourselves, feel anger or guilt, yet allow the same dynamics to continue. In doing so, we unknowingly reinforce the very story we wish would end.

But there is another way.

When you sense that something is off, pause. Give yourself permission—just for a moment—to feel empowered. Do not force an answer. Simply allow that space. Notice what arises. Notice what message comes through, and what action you feel guided to take—whether you call it intuition, wisdom, the divine, God, or the universe.

Give yourself permission for empowerment.

This is the moment. This is the shift. And then, observe what happens.

Everything begins to change when we give ourselves permission to change—permission for more, for better, for a life that feels aligned and fulfilling.

If you need support, guidance, or a safe space to explore this process, feel free to reach out. You do not have to do this alone.